Therapy can be a meeting place for you, where you find a new balance in life
Therapy is a a meeting place for client and therapist, where it is possible to find a new balance in life, both when life turns out from its most brutal side, and when seems meaningless and you feel disappointed and depressed.
Best regards
Erik Hygum, Ph.D, MPF
Past, present and future
Even my strong points could not survive. If I did not learn to love myself, forgive myself a hundred times, dawg
Kendric Lamar, “Count Me Out, Mr. Morale & The Big Steppers”, 2022
We talk about the past, if it is important to you here and now. But we talk just as much about your dreams and hopes for the future. We can focus on anxiety, loss of meaning in life, burnout, stress, grief, chronic and terminal illness, but also on vitality, love, agency and acting in life “no matter what!”.
- I have worked as a therapist since 2018 and continue my training, most recently with a course in Mindfulness (2021).
- I provide therapy both in my clinic in Aarhus (Denmark) and online. The sessions will be either in Danish or English.
- Beside the clinical work I am a volunteer mentor and therapist at the Fundament Foundation, an NGO in Aarhus supporting vulnerable young people.
- I have worked as a volunteer therapist, providing individual and group therapy for cancer patients and their relatives.
- I am a member of the Danish Psychotherapist Association (MPF) and get supervision.
My background as a therapist
I graduated from the Psychotherapeutic Institute Aarhus (2016-2020). I ground my work on a humanistic, existentialist approach. Human life and development are based on relationships rooted in time, space and action, and my therapeutic practice relies on strengthening the client’s agency.
The therapy can be both short-term (3-5 consultations) or long-term. During the first consultation, you and me agree on what could be the focus of the therapy. The focus can be adjusted and changed during the therapy.
I lost my husband a year ago. He died just 12 hours after a complicated surgery. Most of the people around us expected this outcome. Not me. Not even when the surgeon, after the operation, called me with a grave voice. "Everything that could go wrong, went wrong."
The backbone of my existence in all these following months, was the therapeutic process that Erik accompanied me on. He helped me stay present and not run from what I was feeling. What I still feel. And I know my avoidant tendencies. Our meetings were the only safe space where I was able to cry. Where I unloaded all the guilt, the fear, self-doubt, the anger. I'm not a religious person, there was no other process for me. I learned to trust myself more, to accept that there is no recipe for how to feel, or behave, or react when you lose someone that you feel was part of our own being. It was grief, combined with the anxiety of finding my own way after years of putting myself lower on the list of priorities.
It's so hard. And yet, I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband said goodbye that morning, when I took him to the hospital for the surgery. He said he loved me to the best of his ability. He also left a goodbye note to our two years old daughter. So, the most important words have been said. I think that eased my pain greatly.
Maria